From my own experiences, in addition to other people’s, from what I read on blogs and the like, this proverb becomes intensely relevant to our relationships with our parents.
Dear Mom and Dad,
I know being my parents hasn’t been easy since I hit my pre-teen days and kind of never looked back. It’s been strange accepting that, not only was I imperfect contrary to what you had told me, but you were imperfect, too.
Coming to terms with your flaws has been maybe more difficult than coming to terms with my own. Because I can always try to change mine, but I can’t change you.
I love you both. I appreciate everything you’ve done for me, at the very least the intention behind it.
I don’t know why I get so angry when we have our “discussions”. Maybe it’s because I put these expectations on you to say what I wanted to hear or to understand me.
I am really sorry that we aren’t closer. Our relationship isn’t ideal but I’m happy to have you both as my parents, and I look forward to repairing what I’ve broken.
Your daughter, 思思